Pick one concept or idea from this week’s assigned
reading and discuss it. Be sure to
relate the concept/idea to you personally by using examples from your life
and/or experiences
The concept that I want to
talk about this week is anger-ins. This means that there is no expression of
anger to the person that is upsetting us. The book describes how people do this
when they have a hard time admitting that they are angry, know that they are
angry but they don’t want to tell the person, tell others about their anger but
not the one who upsets them, and may be passive aggressive.
I thought that this concept
was interesting because I can see myself acting on this. One reason being is
the fact that there are times when I do not want to tell the other person. For
example I tend to get frustrated with my co-worker, who is also a good friend
of mine, because there are times that I do not agree with her. I would get a
bit angry with her but I do not want to tell her since I know I will get over
it soon. I do not want her to know that I am angry with her because it might damage
the relationship a bit.
I definitely have friends that will tell me they are upset about something, but when I ask them if they have talked to the person directly who is upsetting them they say no because they don't want to hurt their feelings. I get bothered by this situation because I watch my friend sit there and be upset but be unwilling to do anything to fix it because they are afraid that their honest with hurt the other person or permanently ruin the relationship. Anger is a touchy emotion and can definitely cause a lot of damage, but keeping it bottled up really only hurts yourself. It's hard to keep that in mind sometimes when we really value a relationship, but being honest usually works out in the end.
ReplyDeleteHi Cyyntthia, it was interesting to read about anger –ins this week. Some people respond to anger with anger-ins. They have a hard time expressing or admitting that they are angry. They might feel this way because they want to avoid confrontation, or maybe because they are most comfortable holding it inside rather than expressing it. I can understand how sometimes when you are angry you have a hard time expressing it but I don’t think that using anger-in as a technique is healthy. It will just end up being bottled in and bothering the person. Anger doesn’t just disappear, it has to be dealt with in the proper way. Nice job this week.
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