After reading Chapter 10 in its entirety, answer the
following question: Is there an event in your life that you find difficult to
forgive? What is it? What makes it so difficult to forgive
the other person? If you are not
experiencing a difficult event now, describe a past even that you have found
difficult to forgive.
I experienced many situations
where I found it hard to forgive the other person. Right now I am finding it
hard to forgive one my friends because he lied to me for a long period of time.
We were considered to be “best friends” but in our relationship we had some
misunderstanding. Due to the misunderstanding he was disappointed at me and he
started to lie to me about a lot of things. It took him about half a year
before he told me that was lying all this time and that he finally is okay with
me and asked for my forgiveness. I told him I forgave him, but honestly I don’t
think I did. It has been almost 2 years since then and I still find it hard to
fully whole-heartedly forgive him.
I feel like it is hard to
forgive because I was so emotional hurt by what happened and I do not know if I
accept his apology. Every time he tries to even talk to me it is hard for me to
talk to him. I guess it will just take some time before I can really forgive
him.
I think that when people close to us hurt us, like your best friend I is a lot harder to forgive them, because we put all of our heart and soul into a relationship. I also think that a lot of times it is easier to forgive then forget. So maybe in your case, you forgave him, but will never forget that he lied to you for a long period of time. Therefore, you may find that it is hard to build that emotional connection again.
ReplyDeleteThis happened with my best friend and I about a year in a half ago and we didn’t talk for months, and we just put all of our concerns out there on the table and slowly rebuilt our friendship. I think that it’ll take awhile to rebuild that trust, but if they are really your best friend you will be able to someday. Good luck!