After reading Chapter 12 in its entirety, answer the
following question: When have false attributions you have made about another
exacerbated a conflict situation?
Have there been times when making accurate attributions about the other
has helped you?
The attribution theory
“states that people act as they do in conflict situations because of the
inferences they make about others based on their behavior”. Recently I got in a fight with a friend
and during the fight I made an internal attributions towards him. I said that he
was lazy because he didn’t finish his stuff on time. When I made it, it sparked
his fire more because he did not like the comment I made about him from my
judgments. But I soon realize it was because he was tired from all the other
stuff that he was doing during the week, which caused him to not finish on
time.
There are times when I do
make the right attributions and it was helpful. It makes the other person see
what I am noticing about them with the argument. For instance when I fight with
my “older sister” I will point something out about her, like why she is acting
the way she is or what she cannot admit. Once she sees that, she will confess
what I said about her is true and we seem to solve the problem much faster.
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