Pick one concept or idea from this week’s assigned
reading and discuss it. Be sure to
relate the concept/idea to you personally by using examples from your life
and/or experiences
I thought the idea of displaced
conflict in chapter 12 was interesting. This happens when people direct their
conflict towards the wrong person, because they are avoiding a confrontation
with the appropriate person. We often do this on someone we feel “safe” with
since we understand how this person will not get back at us and are patient
with us. I think that this idea is very relatable because I often see it with
others and myself. Often times I get mad with one of my best friends but I
would not let the anger out on her. But instead I will release my anger to my
parents or my other friends. I think I do this because I do not want to
confront my friend in a fear of upsetting her and damaging the relationship.
Another reason why I do it is because I know she is sensitive, if it is not a
big deal I will just release my frustration to someone else. I know this is not
the best solution but thankfully the ones who I displace the conflict on understand
where I am coming from.
Hey,
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I just wanted to let you know that you did such a great job on your post. I also found your post interesting to read. Furthermore, I also agree that displaced conflict happens all the time. I feel that if you don’t let out your anger with the person you are upset with, it will be released somewhere else. I feel that the anger could be displaced to someone or something else. For example, you could take out your anger on another person, or animal, or object. Overall, I feel that your post is well written and enjoyed reading it.
Cyynthhia,
ReplyDeleteGreat job this week! I enjoyed reading this post. I completely agree that people direct their anger towards someone that they feel more comfortable with! It is hard for me to confront people who I am not completely comfortable with and it is definitely easier for me to confront close friends or family…even if the conflict does not involve them. In no way is it fair but I tend to take most of my anger and frustration about conflicts out on my boyfriend. We have been together for four years now and he comes to expect it, but I always feel bad about doing it! So I am completely on the same level as you and definitely understand displacing the conflict!