After reading Chapter 4 in its entirety, answer the
following question: How hard is it for you to stop a conflict? If you find it easy to not respond
automatically, what advice can you give others who have trouble with this
step? Whether you find this step
difficult or not, what ways do you prefer if you try to take a “time out”?
Stopping is taking some
time out of the conflict. The book discuss some of the ways that one can stop
in a conflict: exit temporarily to calm one self, get a glass of water and take
sups of it, count backwards to 100, change the topic for a while.
I have found it difficult
for me to stop a conflict. I believe that it is hard for me because I just want
to win in the situation so I keep arguing. Recently I have found myself to
slowing down and stopping when I need to.
Sometimes if the conflict
between someone just comes up I would normally stop talking and just calm
myself down for a minute or two. Many times I would not walk out of the room
but instead stay there quietly; letting them know that I am not abandoning them
I just need some time to think and calm myself. When it is a slight conflict I
would find myself just changing the topic for a while so the argument will not
get too crazy. This does not just
help me but it also helps the other person as well because it calms them down
and get their mind off of the conflict for a while.
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